Everyone knows that wealth is relative. It is also common knowledge that there is a difference between ‘wealthy’ and ‘rich’. You can be a billionaire or dirt poor, but depending on your attitude, you can feel like the richest man on the planet.
Some people measure their wealth on their own health and happiness, while others are more materialistic, seeking endless income and trophies of status to reassure themselves. Some are delighted with their lives, regardless of their monetary value, others aren’t truly happy even with their bank account is bulging. Some are in between, simply preferring quality and beauty around them, without striving for exaggerated wealth. So…
What is the difference between ‘wealthy’ and ‘rich’?
A rich person, (especially the ‘nouveau riche’), are those with some money to splash around – but too much splashing, or a little change in the economy, and they are back to square one. A ‘rich’ person is just a step away from being middle class again. Or potentially lower class, if they lose enough! Whereas a wealthy individual is one for whom income is irrelevant. Very little could really shake their financial position. They have a solid portfolio of safe investments, properties, land and bank balances. No matter what befalls them, they will usually be able to cover it or recover from it.
Wealth is what people work towards, so they can really relax, knowing that even if they can’t work for a year or the economy collapses, they will still have plenty to fall back on. They can give as generously as they wish, without it affecting their base wealth. Often this wealth is from old money, ie they have grown up with it and inherited it. others have managed to build themselves an empire, and conducted themselves wisely, so as to make the most of their riches, moving steadily into wealth, before they start to ‘live it up’, as it were.
But let’s get back to the question at hand. Is there such a thing as ‘too much’?
How much money does a woman expect you to have?
You don’t need to be super-rich to impress a lady, but you do need to be financially independent. Behaving like the perfect gentleman is a must, regardless of how much money you have. Most women like to look after themselves well and most are also financially independent. But she is biologically conditioned to see out the one who cans provide for her. Even if she has no intention of a future with this man, it is simply in her biological makeup to filter out those gentlemen who cannot maintain a quality of life.
Often, a lack of income or wealth can be the result of emotional problems, laziness, criminal background, or general personal problems. No woman wants to deal with this. Obviously this is not the case all the time, but they can be some of the reasons – which again, biologically, filters you out in a women’s unconscious selection process. So having some level of wealth is important to make your female companions feel safe with you, and consider you a competent, able man.
There is no number on that. Every woman will be different. But clearly you need to have enough to cover her basic needs. Check what those needs are, as it will vary from woman to woman. Some ladies are quite simple, and don’t necessarily care about taking care of themselves in every way possible. They are comfortable with a massage twice a year, and having her hair done every month or so. Other women prefer to be kept groomed to her highest potential, enjoying higher maintenance care. But the gentlemen who like to spoil a lady, won’t mind a high maintenance lady, as he will enjoy ‘maintaining’ her :)
And lets face it, a woman who dresses in quality attire, whose skin is flawless and firm from regular facials and good skin care products, whose nails are immaculate and whose body is in excellent shape thanks to personal trainers, excellent nutrition, or even discreet cosmetic surgery, is going to be a lot more fun to look at and be close to! So that expense is in fact an investment in yourself. if you look at it that way, then you will see the reason why some women are ‘high maintenance’. Because only a wealthy gentleman can handle, appreciate and maintain the lifestyle of those high end women.
Only a man of breeding and sophistication will understand the effort and expense that goes into looking that way, feeling that good. And we all know, when a woman feels good, she is in a generally happy mood. And when she is happy, everyone around her is happy. It’s all part of the higher quality lifestyle, that only the truly wealthy gentleman really understands.
Some tips to avoid your wealth becoming unattractive.
Believe it or not, not every woman is even impressed by wealth. Some actively avoid the wealthy, as her own personal beliefs or experiences have taught her it is not the lifestyle it seems. If you are wealthy, don’t flaunt it in front of your date. You’ll come across as arrogant and flashy as well as superficial and materialistic. Your date will feel as though she has to compete with your wealth in order to be worthy of your company. or worse, she may feel like some kind of charity or trinket to you. By all means spoil her, but keep it low key, especially in the beginning. Wait to see if she is worth it first, or how she responds to wealth. You can always make her feel like a million dollars without spending a cent.
Lower earners can be more modest in their approach to dates, but can still make an impression. Women also look at potential, not just what you currently own. Especially the smart women :) You can still go to good quality places without being cheap. Regardless of your financial situation, the rules are still the same. Be yourself, be confident and treat your date with the respect she deserves. Of course it is unlikely you will be dating high end ladies or luxury supermodel escorts if your overall income is less, but there are always other options, until you have enough disposable income to indulge in life’s little luxuries – and to spoil your date with them too.
You will have to decide what you want out of the dating game. If it’s a temporary yet special encounter with a high class companion, go with it and enjoy the moment. Life is short, and it’s a chance for you to spoil yourself with experiences and memories that will last you til you’re an old man. If you’re looking for something more serious and long term, you will need to work out if your date is with your for your money, or if she’s with you for you. Sometimes pretending to have less money than you have can be a wise move, until you know the woman is not greedy. There is a fine line between someone who is high maintenance, and will happily provide for herself if you are in difficulty, versus someone who is greedy, and will see you lose your car to pay for her lifestyle. Find someone who has a heart, even if she likes the finer things.
A high maintenance lady will need a high source of income to maintain her lifestyle. Rich is what suits YOUR lifestyle and how you feel about things other than money. Ultimately, no, there is no such thing as ‘too rich’, depending on what lifestyle you like to maintain. How much charity you life to give. How important quality is to you. What you consider essential. What level of luxury you like to enjoy, and what memories you want for yourself in your old age. This is entirely up to you to decipher for yourself ;)