All you need to know about connecting with a woman can be found by actually talking to real-live women. If you have sisters you are close to, and a polite nature, then you are halfway there - there is no room for misogyny when it comes to connecting with females. Connections require respect.
The best thing about dating is getting to know each other and finding out things that you have in common. It can take a while to find girls that you click with, and you may have to go through a few not-so-perfect dates to find a girl that fits with your personality. (or you could call an introduction escort service to provide you with a perfectly matched beautiful woman!) You may feel that special connection immediately, or it may take time to hit you, either way, it should be cultivated and pursued.
Treat your date like a princess and make her feel special. Listen carefully to what she has to say and share your thoughts with her, too. You'll find that you like the same music or the same holiday destinations and your attraction and connection will become more intense. These connections will establish future dates as you will want to share your time together. Do activities that you both enjoy, and don't rush things. Spoil yourselves.
Women love a man who pays attention to them and who puts them first. They want to see your thoughtful, caring side. Be romantic as well as attentive. The little things really do mean a lot, and they will show that you are investing in the relationship as much as she is.
There's not much of a connection without regular communication - or at least some communication during each date. To keep the momentum of your connection going, arrange to catch up regularly. Make her a priority. You could send her flowers for no reason other than she is the most beautiful woman in the world to you, and you can't wait to see her again. Go to special places together and create wonderful memories.
Building and maintaining that special connection takes time, but in a good relationship it is worth the effort. The deeper the connection, the more satisfying the interaction.